(This post discusses sex. Only read it if you are over 18, and not one of my family members, colleagues or friends who will get embarrassed).
In heterosexual relationships, the topic of having anal sex comes up eventually. The cliche goes that the female has never tried it, and doesn't really want to do it because they're worried that it will be painful, gross or both. But it's something that their dude partner really wants to try. So the question is: should they do it?
First off, everything about this cliche is completely wrong. You should only do anything when it comes to sex with your partner when both of you give an enthusiastic "yes" of consent to doing it. Also, a lot of girls love anal sex, and when it's done properly, they can prefer it to vaginal. I could write a post about how to have good anal sex as a female, but I'll save that for another time.
The point is: girls have tried it, some girls want to do it, and done properly it can be pleasurable, not painful. But that then leaves the other, bigger issues. What if it is gross? What about her poop? And why, after all the shit women have been through for centuries, is the male still getting everything he wants and is the female accommodating all his desires?
That's where the idea of anal equality comes in. Anal equality says that no male should get to have anal sex with a female if he's not willing to take something up the bum in return. A finger, pegging, plugs, prostate stimulation, you get the idea. By the way, this isn't a chore. This isn't a punishment. Ask any male who hasn't been completely ruined by the religion of masculinity, and you will find that the prospect of them getting something up the bum is both pleasurable and appealing. Don't get me wrong, survivors of sexual assault should be completely let off the hook here. But apart from that, we need more anal equality. Having anal sex is a very vulnerable thing to do. The only way to appreciate that as a male is to make sure that there is anal equality, as this is one of the areas of the female and male body where things can be equal.
Lastly, anal equality solves the age old problem of: what about her poop? If you are both doing butt stuff, both of your poop will be involved eventually. No one person in the couple is grosser than the other. With enthusiastic consent, you're both doing something that you can enjoy together. And if you think about it, that is kind of a beautiful thing.
Amen to prostate stimulation everywhere!